PODCAST:The Book Review
TITLE:Talking the Joys and Rules of Open Marriage
DATE:2024-01-26 00:00:00
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In the January 26th episode of the New York Times Book Review podcast, hosted by Gilbert Cruz, Sarah Lyle converses with Molly Roden Winter, the author of "More: A Memoir of Open Marriage". Winter's book delves into the complexities and personal growth experienced through her journey in an open marriage. The conversation sheds light on Winter's candid exploration of her own desires, challenges, and the impact of non-monogamy on her family life, including the dynamics with her children and husband, Stuart.
Winter, residing in Park Slope with her husband and two sons, reveals the book's genesis in a meditation. She felt compelled to share her story, as representations of open marriages in the media did not align with her experiences. Winter's marriage opened up around 2008, and her memoir spans the first decade of this arrangement. She particularly emphasizes the uniqueness of her experience as a straight woman with children, discussing the gender roles entrenched in heterosexual relationships.
The book also intertwines the story of Winter's parents, offering insights into their open marriage, which Winter only discovered later in life. This revelation becomes a pivotal point in understanding her own marriage and choices. The podcast delves into Winter's first encounter with desire outside her marriage, her husband's initial reaction, and how they navigated the complexities of an open relationship, including feelings of jealousy and insecurity.
Winter addresses the practicalities and emotional intricacies involved in maintaining multiple relationships. The conversation touches on societal changes, including shifting perceptions of monogamy, the role of technology in facilitating non-monogamous relationships, and the impact of COVID-19 on questioning conventional norms.
Central to the discussion is the idea of balancing personal growth and fulfillment with the responsibilities and dynamics of marriage and motherhood. Winter candidly discusses the evolution of her relationship with her husband and her children's awareness and reactions to their parents' unconventional marital arrangement.
"More: A Memoir of Open Marriage" is presented as a frank, introspective, and provocative exploration of Winter's journey through open marriage. The book aims not only to recount Winter's personal experiences but also to spark broader conversations about love, relationships, and societal norms. The podcast offers an in-depth look at the memoir, providing listeners with a nuanced understanding of the joys and challenges of an open marriage.
